Not a Member? Can two women love the same man and still get along? Annie Chapman believes that a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can become friends—even close friends. However, this connectedness often takes years to develop.
Now that journey can be a joyful one! Offering practical advice and biblical wisdom, this book helps mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law nurture their relationships.
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We talked to Tina B. Below, Tessina shares her top tips for how to deal with difficult mothers-in-law in each of their various forms. Either way, the best and most effective way of handling her judgmental remarks is to react with silence instead of egging her on and trying to defend yourself. Just treat it as if she said something unspeakably rude which is true and you're going to do her a favor by ignoring it.
Look directly at her, smile, and say absolutely nothing.
Chances are, after a very uncomfortable 30 seconds or so, she'll probably try to take back what she said. And it'll keep the peace between you and your partner. If blowing family occasions—particularly the holidays —out of proportion sounds familiar, you've got a needy MIL on your hands. You and your partner need to work out together what you want to do and how you'll split spending time with each other's extended family. After you decide, gently and considerately inform her and remain firm in your decision.
She has to learn that you have a new family now, and you'll be connected but not joined at the hip.
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She has an opinion about everything you're doing, including spending money, parenting, health issues, your friends, and your home. Instead of defending yourself at every turn, figure how to ignore your mother-in-law—because if you just stay calm, ignore her, say um-hmm, and let it go, the little comments she makes won't turn into a full-on big deal.
And no matter what, don't try to tailor your life to suit her opinion; trying to please her can be an endless, frustrating, and irritating path. Trust us. This well-intentioned mother-in-law unfortunately hasn't learned to let go and can try to maintain control by doing too much for you.
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While this may seem great at first, especially if she helps you with that down payment on a new home , buys you a car, takes care of the kids, or bails you out of financial problems, there's likely to be strings attached and she may want something in return from you that's disruptive for your family. Best to be very aware of the cost of parental help prior to accepting. The MIL who is always broke and wants to borrow money or have you sign for loans, etc.
Of course her child feels obligated to help.
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However, it's important for the two of you to set limits together. Talk about her money problems in general, and make a deal. You may need to accept that she needs assistance, but limits are key or she'll become a bottomless pit. She nags, scolds, or whines when things don't meet her expectations. However, you have to remember to take care of yourselves and find a way to protect your marriage from her guilt-inducing behavior.
If you or your partner is constantly intimidated and continually gives in to her demands, it can ruin your relationship.
Everybody cheered and danced with them. The bride was jumping up and down and dancing with the duo. In the end, she cheered the loudest and quickly gave her new mother-in-law a hug.
More and more surprises are cooked up by the bride for her new husband, the groom for his new wife, parents for their new son-in-law or daughter-in-law, friends for the newlyweds and it has been making more fun to attend. Traditionally the father and daughter dance was more standard at weddings, but in the last 15 years the mother and son dance has become more and more popular.
This mother and son went all out and the fun they had together is a beaming light of joy to all in the room.